Hey Hey! My name is Alexandra, but my friends and family call me Allie — and now that you’re here, you can call me Allie too! I’m a trauma survivor and a faith-led woman, but I’m also a mom, wife, daughter, auntie, granddaughter, and friend. All of these roles matter deeply to me. I’m so glad you stopped by, and I hope this marks the beginning of an inspiring healing journey for you.
My Healing Journey
I began my own healing journey about five years ago – it was 2020, one of the hardest years of my adult life. My marriage was falling apart, my two-year-old niece was living with us after a tragic accident left my brother paralyzed, and my family had very limited support to help us through it all.
One day, during a heated argument, my husband said, “You manipulate everyone around you. It’s no wonder your own dad wants nothing to do with you.”
Those words hit me like a ton of bricks. They shattered the adult woman who thought of herself as caring, but also the inner child who was still fighting feelings of abandonment. The dark feelings that surfaced were my wake-up call to begin my healing process. I knew I needed counseling, both individual and marital. And this is where my healing journey truly began.
From Chaos to Clarity
As a child, I grew up with an alcoholic mother and an inconsistent father. Life was chaotic, so I tried to control whatever I could — keeping my room spotless, getting perfect grades, and clinging to relationships where I thought I held the power. I didn’t realize that this pursuit of control was actually a form of codependency — behaviors that appear helpful on the surface but are really about trying to manage and manipulate circumstances to feel safe. This realization was a crucial part of my healing journey.
The truth was harsh, but it also made sense. My worth had been tied to my ability to control outcomes. And when I lost control, my world crumbled like a Jenga tower missing too many pieces. Through healing, I learned to let go of that need for control and embrace a healthier perspective.
The Turning Point
In 2023, while I was deep in therapy for healing, I was invited to a women’s event at a local church. The preaching pastor, now a close friend, opened with a question that changed everything for me: “What if your story is your purpose?”
Those seven simple words felt like a direct message from God. Suddenly, I saw all my pain through a new lens: the pain I had endured was purpose-driven. God was going to use it for good, because that’s what He does. Our God is good, even when this world is not.
From that night on, I knew my story was meant to help others heal. Within a few months, I put pen to paper and started writing my testimony, which will become my book. Two years later, God still hasn’t let up on this calling. Yes, it’s scary to share so openly — but I knew He wouldn't give me a mission just to watch me fail.
Why I'm Here
I’m here to help other women see their trauma for what it truly is: the foundation of their testimony. But to move from trauma to testimony, we must be willing to do the healing work. God has claimed us with His grace and called us for more.
You too are claimed and called. Let’s walk this healing path together. I’m here for you — and you’ve got this.
Fun Facts
1. I have a passion for people and their sense of belonging, which I believe is essential for healing. I firmly believe that God would never put you somewhere you don’t belong.
2. I’m just a simple girl who loves Jesus and a good Starbucks latte, both of which bring me peace and healing in my daily life.
3. The beach is my happy place – it doesn’t have to be warm, just needs to have sand and the big open ocean, where I find healing in the waves.
4. I don’t really have hobbies, but I love planning a good minivan road trip, which feels like a healing adventure.
5. I’m a city girl who loves cows! I never get sick of seeing them in nearby farm towns and always point and then shout, “Look, cows!” – it's a little joyful moment that contributes to my healing.